8 Ways to Encourage Your Friend to Go to the Gym
If you have a friend who is out of shape and getting worse, you might feel worried. You might want them to go to a gym.
The most important thing to remember is that you can’t make someone do anything. They have to want to do it. What you can do is talk to them about your concerns and respect their response. Do not try to trick, cajole or manipulate them. They will resent you and it will backfire.
As Benjamin Franklin once said, “A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.”
Here are 8 things you can try:
1. Give Them Perspective
Many people who are unhealthy have a distorted view of how they look. Showing them a video or picture of them where they appear unhealthy can give them a dose of reality. A lot of people who are out of shape purposely avoid mirrors. If you can convince them to take a look, that might spur change.
2. Make it Fun
If you’re friends, you can talk and laugh while you work out together. Walking on a treadmill is a nice time to tell each other stories.
3. Offer to be a Coach
Point out that you will be there to support your friend. Making a lifestyle change is hard, and people need understanding allies. That’s you.
4. Talk About the People
Very attractive people are in the gym, and they are usually very nice and helpful. Point out that most people in the gym don’t judge you, they respect you for trying. They know it takes guts to make a change, often because they did it themselves.
5. Scout Out the Gym
Many times people are nervous. If you have been to the gym, you can give them every detail they need in advance. Remind them you will be there with them to help them navigate and learn.
6. Pick a Gym That is Close
If you can find a gym that is close to where your friend lives, that it makes it easier. When you can get to the gym in 5 minutes, it feels like it doesn’t take too much time out of the day.
7. Remind Them of the Positives
You want your friend to be their best self. Tell them that. Tell them that life will feel better and more rewarding when the body and mind are in tune.
8. Buy Them a Membership
Now you’re being a great friend! That’s one less excuse they have.
Remember, they will either do it or they won’t. If they say no, accept it, but stay open about it. Many times people say no to something and then they mull it over. A few days later, they change their mind.